For yourself, to yourself

Giving you an example here, being raised in an Asian family, it is annoying to go back to a family gathering sometimes because there are always these few relatives who are being so 'kiasu' (always waiting to fight for first), asking around about your results and how you perform in school if they have children who are still studying or have people already found an excellent partner if they are in their adulthood and it is the time to set into another phase of life. It is annoying, isn't it? I doubt if this happens in the west, or where is this culture coming from and stays in the bone of all the Asian aunties (we call everyone else on the street aunty and uncle).

I have a lovely family from my mother side who we always keep in touch with, who I will automatically update them about my daily life and milestones. I feel that they really care about me. Moreover, things get a bit different for the father side. We seldom get in touch with each other and therefore the bond between us are weak, weak enough for me not to have a chat with them till the day I go back to their house and still do not know how to roll on a conversation. There are always awkward moments. They are very selfish in my eyes. Especially when coming to their children's result, very 'kiasu' of them. I knew where I stand and I know I have achieved some things which make my parents proud enough to announce it in front of them, nonetheless, I will just keep quiet when they proudly showing off to me how good their children are in school, which always seems to be normal for me. I am not being arrogant but what they have done get on my nerves. Deep down in me I knew what we have done are much more than them, but I am too tired to explain everything; it is just way too much when I want to get the story start.

Sharing joys to others was a kind of happiness, but when it goes over the line, things will just turn out bad. Know where is the limit, because there is always a boundary between people.  At the end of the day, you will choose to keep everything to yourself, because when it starts to flow to others people's mouth, the story will alter a bit, anyway how. Not being selfish this time but to save us the hustle, the energy used up for the unnecessary competitions and arguments. You know the best where you are standing, have faith in yourself and not depending your life on their words, it is all bullshit, defining yourself by your own word and write a good story out of that.